No Knitting.....

I've had better days...but then again, I've had worse days.
I got up this morning and left Jim to sleep in. I wanted Richard to go onto the computer to find out what saint he was going to chooses as his patron saint. But before he did that I checked to make sure that he had not gone to any appropriate sites yesterday while we were at WalMart. Well, there were all kinds of them. So I asked him if he went to any sites that he shouldn't have and he said that the only thing that could be considered 'inappropriate' would be the sites he went to for his biology report on different kinds of bacteria, viruses, etc. He was checking the one on herpes, but, he swore, he didn't click on anything that he shouldn't have. Hmmmmm. I told Jim about it and he didn't say anything. Then when he got up he lashed into me because I hooked up the wireless keyboard/mouse on his computer for him. I'm always doing that sort of thing for him so it was weird that he lashed out. I asked him if it was HIS porn and he said yes. WE then ended up going around for about 3 hours....all very civilly and rationally, but in the end I basically told him that he had made his choice on who he wanted....them or me.
It started out with him somewhat admitting that it wasn't good that he went to those sites. But it was art. BULL!!! I told him that if it was TRULY art then he wouldn't have a problem going to those sites with Richard or me in the room. And yes, I do believe that the nude female body is one of the most beautiful things on earth....or at least some of them...LOL....those of us over 40 who have had kids do NOT fall into that category!! LOL!
Then he said it was wrong and that he shouldn't have done that. After that, I asked him how he was going to approach it with Richard (who has already been disciplined for going to porn sites) and he said that he was going to tell him what happened and that he shouldn't have gone to them but he wasn't really.... That's when I jumped off the boat. Yes, I should have let him finish, but, dammit, we are constantly on Richard to stop justifying why this or that is 'not really wrong' and to not weasel out of responsibility. And that's exactly what Richard would see it as....I know....because just like me, he thinks in black and white.....either it's this way or it's that way. He tries to use gray a lot, but he can spot a hypocritical weasel excuse a mile away. So I got upset again and said that it was crap and walked out. Then I went to the history and printed out some of the 'art' that he was viewing. Some were very tasteful, but all were geared towards sexual arousal......and most were out and out hoochie pics!!! So I took them in to Jim and gave him his "art" and told him if he TRULY believed that these were truly artistic and not for sexual gratification, then he would have no problem showing them to Richard.....or the Deacon or Father for that matter!